Here’s a blog post I promised Brett Fink (soon to be Boston College grad) that I would write.
I haven’t blogged in a while. That’s a problem! I used to blog all the time and my writing skills were great (or at least I thought so). Anyway, a lot has happened since last summer and fall and life has changed a ton. Here’s the briefest of brief overviews of my life in a nutshell.
My Mom & Vacation
Fall going into winter was tough. Work wise, things seemed to be moving slow because the weather dictates energy level in the Northeast. It’s a busy time of year before Thanksgiving and Winter Break. I then learned that my mom wasn’t doing well, so I actually few to Thailand. I met with my sister and family and visited my Mom everyday over the course of almost two weeks, but my mom was unconscious the entire time. Doctors explained she had a number of ailments–heart problems, kidney problems, infections–on top of her diabetes. So, everything she didn’t do to take care of herself was catching up quickly. We knew that it was a matter of time until she would pass, but we could not stay in Thailand. So, my sister and I had to head back to the U.S.
Winter break began and again, I wondered when my mom would pass. I knew my family would keep us updated on her condition. Meanwhile, I knew my life had to move forward. I decided to take my first legitimate vacation to Disney World and Universal Orlando. I knew I needed to get away and just have fun, because if anything, my mom’s ailments told me life is short and that it was always my dream to go to Disney World. This was a time I could actually afford it, so I decided to make the trip with Luis. All in all, it was a fun experience and just a good time to just focus on myself while experiencing what vacation really feels like. I realized that people go on them because it really is relaxing. It’s a privilege, for sure, so I’m not saying everyone should go on vacation, but that if you can, do it. It was my form of self-care among everything happening in my life.
Thankfully, my job is full of wonderful people and people who understand situations come up. When I returned back to Boston, I learned my mom had passed. I quickly had to come up with money to be able to make the trip back to Thailand (going twice in a month is really expensive). So, I eventually came up with the funds and made it back to Thailand. Although the time before felt a little more like vacation, this time, it was for a lot of funeral services and my mom’s cremation ceremonies.
Thai Buddhism consists of a lot of praying, but a lot of celebration, too. Leading up to the cremation, lots of people come out and pray every night with the family. Food is served and services don’t last long, but it brings people together multiple times. Once the cremation happened and we took my mom’s bones and ashes out to sea (in a beautiful spot), things were just a lot happier. Everything is just more beautiful in Thailand and doing something like this in the U.S. wouldn’t have been the same, so I’m thankful my mom passed in Thailand and not in the U.S. I think the entire experience just provided closure and I know my mom is resting. Life was just hard these past couple of years and I know she’s in a better place, wherever that is.
My Job & Weather
Like I said, weather dictates my mood and energy levels. It’s been hard-working through an entire day without being tired or wanting to take a mid-day nap. I hate winter and I can’t wait for actual spring and summer and even fall! Warmth. I need sunlight. I think this year has been such a learning experience and is going a lot quicker than I had ever expected. As I start a day, it’s the end of the day and it’s a new week and new month. I can’t believe it’s already March (as I’m writing this). It’s been great to learn how to do my job and learn to do it better each day. I know I entered not knowing a lot about residential life, so all I can say is that I’ve learned a lot and I’m hoping as I end my first year, I can reflect on how to do the job even better.
When the summer heat comes, I’ll be in training again (maybe this signals the most productivity in terms of learning for me).
Everything Else & Nothing Else
It’s always interesting to go through each new stage of life. People come and go all the time. People I think I’m supposed to be friends forever with one day just stop talking to me or walk away. I can’t control that anymore than anything else in life, but it’s just so interesting. I was asked by a couple of people over the last few months to blog, and this time it was Brett who asked me to write about my life and experiences, and so he gets the credit on this one. Tory gets the credit on the last post (which was months after the last post before it).
I plan to run the Boston Run to Remember Half Marathon again this year over Memorial Day Weekend and I’m hoping to sign up to run the Disney World Marathon in January 2016. I think of all things I have been thinking about, it is how I need to get healthier. I don’t want diabetes, heart problems, kidney problems, or high cholesterol. I don’t want to be over weight and sick all the time. I don’t want to die before the age of 70. So, it’s true when I say my mom taught me a lot about what not to do.
So, I’m taking names of people who totally would make the trip down to Disney World in January to run the marathon with me! Seriously. Do. It.